Is Romance Dead?

Romance has never been our generation’s forte. You’re almost lucky to have a date nowadays- and I mean a proper one. A date where the guy brings you out for drinks or even dinner. I think that most of us consider ourselves fortunate if we’ve been asked to join him to a rave party, so on your “Second date”, consider it normal to get your first kiss in the middle of thousand strangers with tongues tasting of cigarettes and gin tonic.

I’ve been introduced to the term “Netflix and Chill” three weeks ago. Apparently this is the millennial code for sex, or how my friends like to call it, which has further convoluted the modern dating process. So how do you interpret it: does it mean come over and hang? Or come over and bang?

We are certainly not the first to invent this “doing”. Before the Internet we had cassettes, DVD, the pink land line phone cord as an excuse to make out with your date. It wasn’t long ago when the term was: “Dinner and a movie?” and prior to that there have been the “drive-in cinema and chill”, “the park-and-chill”. However, going to the movies was still a proper date. Going out was involved, wearing something presentable was expected and pop-corns where on him.


For those recalling high school make out sessions to the din of DVDs and wondering if that was the beginning of the end, give your younger selves a little more credit. Back then, your “date” had an excuse: a curfew. Watching a movie with your crush meant more literal face time than a date-date (considering that physical separation is typically required in public and for travel). It was efficient; two birds, one bone.

And yet here we are now, twenty-something adults, “20 minutes in to Netflix and Chill.” Those “relatable posts” make it look like recipients of the lazy invite are surprised at their hosts’ true intentions — and maybe we were, at first. But we’re well-aware of what it means (shout out to the memes) and we’re a bit too smart to be doing this: complaining that romance is dead while calling an Uber and pulling on leggings to appear both casual and cute.

So why go?

Because Netflix and Chill is the ultimate companion test.

Do we have the same taste in TV? What about movies? How is your binge-watching endurance? Fast forward through hook up Will you laugh at the same parts that I laughed? Are you a mid-show talker? A plot ruiner? One of those people who asks questions even though I haven’t seen this movie either? Can I have your Seamless password?

Maybe it is better to find this out at once rather over the draining course of multiple courses, fourth dates, bad stoop kisses and missed signals.

But if romance is, in fact, dead, then to hell with grandma’s rules. Be the Netflix and Chill initiator, invite him over, control the remote, and enjoy your third date from the comfort of your couch.